Sunday, June 5, 2016

Why You and Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Should Encourage Growth in Each Other.

     Anyone in a relationship knows that to connect stronger and deeper you must both grow together, but many times this is overlooked and each person gets comfortable where they are and stops growing to become the greatest they can be.  We see couples unhappy all the time, they both stop trying to improve and end up watching tv all day or just being lazy in general.  Working to help each other improve will not only help you grow but help your partner as well, and also the relationship because the two of you are both lifting each other up instead of letting each other become comfortable.  The true love of your life will know whats best if you make it clear to them its what you want, and if they see you slacking they will always be there to motivate you, and get you back on your two feet, and you will always do the same for them.
     Lets imagine for a minute you get into a relationship, everything starts off perfect but then things slowly change, you let go of your health, mind, and inner passion, and so does the other person.  Sound familiar to anyone?  I sure hope not!  But like I said this is the case for many people today, and what I want to talk about today are some practices my partner and I use to keep each other on track with our mission!
1) Always be uplifting.
     If your partner needs encouragement or thinks they have hit a "dead end" in something you need to be there to show and encourage them what they are going for.  We all face struggles but this person should be there to help you through the struggles you face, and vice versa.  A couple who lifts each other up will both be growing together which leads to more love and passion for the relationship, because both people are growing instead of one growing and the other not or both not growing at all and the relationship losing passion, 2 people lifting each other up to become their best selves will keep you and your partner not only in line with you but also together, you will be on the same frequency, and show each other more love than ever as you both grow!
2) Give them love, don't buy them a bunch of shit they don't need.
     Showing love has been something that works for my partner and I for a while, although buying each other items can be nice it doesn't really encourage growth at least for us.  Being compassionate about achievements and success for each other is one of the biggest motivators for us.  You could buy your partner anything but without showing your true interest and love in what they are doing it is going to be harder for them to want to achieve their goals.  The touches of love you throw in to their work will help them even just 1% more to help them achieve what they want in life.  Highly recommend focusing on love not only for growth in their dreams but for each of you as a whole, it will help personally and for the both of you, as you see a vision for your future of growth together.
3) Why not helping each other improve is hazardous.
     Lastly I would like to talk about why you must help each other improve in a relationship.  First off the relationship will just get boring and the both of you will always be the same people, never improving, and feelings will die away quickly.  It's not about change but about improvement, and both partners should see that and feel like themselves while becoming their best selves.  Tony Robbins says that change will happen no matter what.  I think this can be very useful for life but for now lets look at it for relationships and growing as a person.  20 years from now you and your partner will change, just by looking older, but this isn't change you created, you both must seek improvement, it may take lots of work to improve to your best self and help your partner improve to their best self, but for any relationship it is necessary.

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