Tuesday, September 25, 2018

The Power Of The Language We Use.

Something that I have come across lately was how I was using my language to either uplift or degrade myself and others.

I realized that if I was truly going to start to grow and take massive action to get to where I want to be in my life I would have to change the way I talk.

I first started noticing myself using language such as "I can't" while working out when I was starting to get to a rep or weight that was "too hard" to lift. This in turn became true, by saying I can't do one more rep, I wasn't able to.

Rather, if I switched to saying to myself "I can" or "give it your best shot" I could usually lift the weight one time if not more, and worse case I would give it my best and end up doing a half rep.  Either way, I pushed and gave it that little extra effort which in turn made me feel better.

Another big game changer for me was in the book Rich Dad Poor Dad, where the author says "Instead of saying to yourself 'I can't afford something', ask yourself 'how can I afford this?'"

So what does this mean for you?  I want you to start to notice where you are using language that isn't helping you become your best version.  Start to really dive deep into how it makes you feel on a daily basis, and how using this language is holding you back instead of helping you move forward?

Once we get used to using language against ourselves or others, it usually turns into a downward spiral from there.  We start to become attracted more and more to using this type of language.

But the oppposite is also true, if we use language that is empowering to ourselves and others we will start to notice an upward spiral.  Sure part of this is positive thinking, but 99% of this is because you are seeing yourself and others in a positive light.  By using positive language you will start to shift your brain to see all the ways that you can do great for yourself and others everyday.

You will no longer have to live life in a state of negativity.  Although the language you use won't get rid of all of your problems, it will help you get rid of some of your problems.

Before I end this I wanted to give you an exercise to try that will help you shift your language from negitive to positive first thing in the day.

Tomorrow when you wake up (if you are reading this when I publish this blog) it will be Monday morning.  I know, the day everyone dreads with a burning passion. 

I know that most likely every Monday you wake up, you probably say to yourself "oh great another Monday and week to get through.  Now what I you changed tou view and language on Monday just a little bit?  I'm not even saying you have to love Mondays, but what if there was something simple that could help you feel a little better about them?  Would you give it a try and see if it made not just your Monday, but week as well a little bit better?  You bet you would!

So here it is, (as a disclaimer this is something I have heard others say that are living great lives and something that really stuck with me since I heard it) what if tommorow when you wake up you say to yourself how greatful you are to be alive another day, not just that but another week!

If you wake up in a state of gratitude tomorrow morning and every other Monday for that matter, how much better are your weeks going to be? By changing your language early in the morning it will help set the course for the rest of the day and week!

Closing thoughts.

I hope that this read has been extremely helpful for you in changing the way you speak in your daily life.  I know first hand that we can either speak in a empowering or disempowering way, and the language that you use will make a dramatic difference in how you live your life.  Whether it be for you achieving goals, or influencing others, the words you use on  daily basis are one of the most important things that will help you become the person that you want to be in life!

Live your life to the fullest,

Saturday, September 15, 2018

Feeling Bad For Gaining Fat While Bulking.

If you have been following me over the past couple months you know that I have been working on bulking to gain as much muscle as I possibly can by the end of this year.  So far I am making pretty good progress on my muscle gains, but I have also been gaining some fat in my belly area.  Although I probably only gained a couple pounds of fat, I have kind of been feeling bad and discouraged because of it.  My goal is to be 135 pounds and lean (8-12% bodyfat) by December, so by gaining fat, I feel as if I will gain the muscle I want, but will have trouble dropping the fat that I need to drop.

Maybe you are experiencing a similar problem with your bulk.  I really wanted to make this blog to help and guide you if you are in the same boat.  So here are a couple tips that will help you along the way of your bulk!

Keep your focus on the end goal.

The first step in helping you is to focus on where you want to be instead of focusing on where you are right now.  If you want to be a certain weight, focus on that rather than focusing on where you are.  By focusing on where you want to be you will train your mind to visualize it and work on making it a reality.

This mindset will also help you not beat yourself up for where you are.  This is actually the biggest reason I am writing this blog right now.  For a couple weeks I was focusing on the fat I gained (although not much) and how it bugged me to be gaining fat while bulking.

As of last week I have shifted my mindset to focusing on my end goal, which is weighting 135 pounds and having8-12% bodyfat, rather than looking at the little bit of fat I did gain so far on my bulk.  And the weirdest thing happened since last week, I started to notice more muscle growth.

I know that may sound weird, but I know that by focusing on my end goal, I started to see myself getting stronger and my muscles growing faster.  I know the same will happen for you when you keep your eyes on your end goal!

Trust the process.

When bulking you will pretty much be guaranteed to gain fat.  The reason being, is that you are eating a surplus of calories, some calories going to muscle gain and others storing as bodyfat.  So the first tip is to not get so caught up in gaining a little bit of fat, as it is part of the process.  But also don't go overboard and eat so much food that you are only gaining fat.

By eating whatever is the right amount for you, realize that it is normal to gain muscle as well as a little bit of fat.  But you always have the ability to eat more or less depending on how much you are currently eating.

Once you get into a good flow of how much to eat on a daily basis, you can start to trust the process more.  By trusting in the process you will be able to be content with where you are and have a clear focus on where you are going!

Closing thoughts.

I hope that if you have been feeling discouraged or bad about gaining fat on a bulk, that reading this blog has gave you some useful advice.  These tips are really what have helped me and I know that as long as you apply these tips to your mindset that they will help you as well!

Live your life to the fullest,

Sunday, September 2, 2018

Feeling Lack Of Motivation? Try This Out.

Over the past couple weeks I have been lacking motivation like crazy.  I've even been unmotivated to go to the gym and workout the past couple weeks.  Usually I love working out but its just been feeling like more of a struggle than fun for me at times.

This being said I am still working out and pushing through this feeling of being unmotivated.  Deep down I think this lack of motivation is linked to things that I want to happen, not happening fast enough.

Today I wanted to share with you how I am learning to get myself motivated in hopes that it will help you be able to motivate yourself when you need motivation.

We all lack motivation.

No one is born motivated to do anything.  Chances are as a child you weren't motivated to try and walk.  Although you probably don't remember this, you most likely wanted to keep crawling around and doing what was familiar and easy for you.

Lack of motivation (IMO) stems from resisting something that you want to do that is a challenge for you.  For example you may want to start reading books, but haven't been much of a reader in the past, you buy a book for yourself but are still feeling unmotivated.  You may want to start reading and create a new habit, but you feel stuck as lack of motivation stops you from achieving your goal.

Its completely fine to lack motivation.  But how are you going to respond to this lack of motivation?  Are you going to let it stop you or fuel you?

What I have noticed is that even if you lack motivation, you still have the choice to push yourself, and reclaim
that motivation!  By doing this you will build momentum, as well as start to feel more inspired and motivated for the things that really matter for you.

Feeling lack of motivation, try thisShift your mindset.

In my case I was thinking of working out only to gain muscle.  Which isn't bad, but I also wasn't as motivated lately just thinking that way.  I ended up starting to remember the reason behind why I am working out, and this was because (yes I do want to build muscle) I want to build muscle to help other hard gainers / skinny fat males do the same in the most effective way possible!

By thinking of how your goals will have value not only to you but also the world, you will be able to have more motivation for achieving the goals you have set for yourself.  There will be a bigger purpose behind each goal you set for yourself.

For an example if you want to start reading books just so you can learn more, it might fuel you for a while, but eventually you will need a bigger goal to start reading books.  Maybe you start to read books so you can someday know how to write an amazing book of your own to share with the world.

Closing thoughts.

I hope these tips helped you gain some motivation to achieve the goals you have for yourself, as well as helped you create a bigger purpose for your goals!

Live your life to the fullest,