How To Have Better Communications Skills. (My Social Journey So Far)

How are your conversation skills?  If you clicked on this blog chances are they need some work.  A little about me if you don't already know or are someone new.

I am someone who is an extreme introvert.  I am taking a journey of self improvement in many different areas of life.  In this case it is communication, and conversation skills.  I am slowly breaking out of my shyness every single day.  The journey is hard but with each small step comes sprints.  Many of the things I will be listing here are things that I struggle with still to this day, but I am sharing them because they are all things I am working on and have some experience with.  So if you are shy or even just want to improve your conversations this is for you!

Eye contact:

Eye contact is something that used to be a struggle for me, now it is pretty normal.  However, my eyes do still shy away sometimes, and for some reason it happens more when I am recording a video than when I am talking to someone.  I find eye contact to be the biggest key, and thats why I listed it first.  It is the staple for a couple other communication skills I am working on that I will talk about more in depth later in this post as you read.

So why is eye contact important?  Well if you have ever had a conversation with someone who isn't looking you in the eyes and is looking at the ground or somewhere else, even if they aren't distracted it can feel like the person isn't listening.  Not even that but if you are the one with poor eye contact people aren't going to want to talk to you as much for that reason because they are going to feel you aren't listening.  Eye contact has been a key for me along my journey and I am practicing it every single day whenever I am talking to someone.  It will feel awkward at first but in reality it is less awkward than not looking someone in the eye when you are having a conversation.

Slow down your speech:

If you guys watch my youtube videos you know what I am talking about.  There are videos where I am talking as fast as a bullet train.  It becomes very hard to follow and you can tell that I am nervous to be on camera instead of fully happy.  However over the time I have been making videos I have been practicing this a lot and slowly over coming it.  If you are trying to communicate with someone, remember to slooooowwwww dooowwwwwnnnn.  You and the person you are talking to will both have a better and more enjoyable conversation.

Better at listening instead of talking:

Oh, how I struggle with this one.  I used to be the guy who wouldn't pay attention to what you say and wait for you to get done talking so I could say my point.  I may even still do this (oh no!).  Through my journey I have heard many people saying to listen to what the other person is saying instead of what you are going to say next.  I can say that this advice helps! As an introvert I find myself always stuck in my head about what I am going to say next, and not focussing on what the person that is talking to me is saying.  I know I have gotten better, and I realize people are more open to talk to you when you listen to what they are saying, and instead of saying what you have been waiting to say for the last 2 minutes you actually listen to the other human being and make a comment on something that person said, and they will be even more happy to talk about themselves.

Don't multitask while talking (be present):

 Have you ever been talking to someone and all they are focussed on is their phone or something other than you?  I think we have all been there and you feel as if the person doesn't want to hear what you have to say or isn't even listening.  I still do this from time to time and regret it.  Chance are if you are shy you do it as well.  I find that being completely present with the person I am speaking to also goes into play with listening.  To be present with someone we must have patience.  If we don't we will ignore what they are saying and find more enjoyment in our phones instead of the person.  A great way to help be more present with someone is to practice meditation daily.

Speak with life not monotone:

This is the hardest one for me to overcome.  When I am happy I sound the same as I do sad a lot of the time.  When I make a joke it can sound serious.  For whatever reason I struggle so hard with adding energy to my voice even when I am happy or excited.  Maybe you do to.  If you are monotone it is harder to capture peoples attention and also hard for people to grab onto what way you are saying it.  It may seem like you are being mean even if you say something nice just because your voice has no up or downs.  I have been practicing and the way that has helped me to slowly stop doing this is to notice when I am monotone and switch to being more alive.  Don't fake aliveness in your voice but embrace it when it is true!

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Why You Shouldn't Talk Family or Friends Into Starting Their Journey.

How's it going guys?

Have you been on your path/journey to mastering your life for a while now, or even just recently started to try to master and grow your life to become your greatest version?  If you have I know you have been enjoying the process, and see yourself improving everyday.  Most likely you want your friends and family to start some form of improving themselves to right? Why wouldn't you? We all want to see those we love and care for winning in their life and having fun every single day!

What if I told you trying to talk to your friends and family about starting their journey wasn't the best idea, what would you say?  You would probably think that I am crazy right?  On paper talking friends and family into starting their journey sounds like the best thing you can do because we all want those around us succeeding and growing, but I have noticed something about doing this that isn't good.

The more I try to get someone to improve their life the more it seems to aggravate them, which is a lose-lose for both of us.  Now why is this?  Why would this aggravate people if you want to see them succeed?

If you are on a path to mastering your health, imaging someone keeps trying to get you to eat Big Mac's or drink Coke.  How are you going to feel about this?  Most likely it would be aggravating because you are trying to do one thing and others are telling you to do another, and your obviously not going to eat the Big Mac.  It is the same for if you want someone else you love and care for to make a shift and you keep saying it everyday to them.


They will start when they are ready.
You may find that no matter what you say or do those around you won't start their journey.  This is simply because they are not ready and no matter how much you nag at them to start they never will until they decide to.  Why am I telling you this?  Do you just give up on them?  No of course not but you must give up on the idea of them starting right away.

Chances are it took you years to start and make a shift and notice what old habits you had weren't serving you.  We are looking to help, but with this instance they can only help make themselves and make the realization to change their life, until then it would be as if someone the opposite political party as you is telling you how great that the party they like is.  

Be patient, not everyone has to start when you do, it would be nice, but most likely it won't happen.  When they are ready you will be there to help along their journey as well as they will be able to help you along yours!

Not everyone will start.
The fact that not everyone will start can seem to bug us, or is that just me?  I don't know about you but I would love to see a world where everyone is on their journey doing things everyday to improve themselves, but the sad, horrible truth is that not everyone will start their journey.  Many of your family and friends won't even start!  This doesn't mean to pity or shame them, because they may just see things differently than you do and thats ok.  Like I was getting to in the last paragraph  I will say in this one as well.  Don't try to control everything in your life or in anyone else's.  The more you try to control the less control you will have over the situation.  You must know that not everyone will start their journey in the same way!

Closing thoughts.
I hope this blog post helped you guys,  I know from my experience that I want everyone to win and start their journey to creating a better life, but many will, many won't, and some will take longer than others to start.  Just remember that this is ok, the only person you can control is yourself, and the more you try to control the less control you will have, and we shouldn't try to control family or friends anyways.

Have a nice day, I will talk to you on the next one,
Brian 

How I Prevented a Cold in Just a Few Hours.

Does this title sound insane? Well it should!  This is insane and I can't believe I actually prevented myself form getting sick just by the foods I was eating and the way I was taking care of my body.

So Friday and part of thursday night I started to feel a cold coming on.  Nothing to drastic, but I knew I could at least try to prevent it, and lo and behold, it worked!

What did I do to prevent the cold naturally from getting worse?  I would say the biggest thing was my diet.  I did however work Thursday and Friday, which may not help, but I was still able to prevent the cold form getting worse.

In the middle of work on Friday I was probably feeling the worst, I was even feeling a little lightheaded and warm like I had a fever, warm to the point where at work it was 76 degrees and I was shivering with goosebumps!  I decided to get 2 amazing probiotics, one I have been drinking for a while now, the other I just started drinking the last week or 2 and fell in love with it.  The first is kefir, which has a sour taste (because its fermented), but also tastes like yogurt.  I usually use it for protein and the taste but knew it would come in handy to fight my cold because it is a probiotic so why not have a "medicine" I enjoy?

Kombucha tasted a little bit weird at first, but I can't say what made me like it?  I originally tried it because I heard that it would increase energy.  But in the situation I was in with my cold I remembered "this is a fermented beverage, I can use this for my immune system!" and that I did and I'm glad that I did.

I drank a whole bottle of kefir and a whole bottle of kombucha within 30 minutes to 1 hour, and it didn't take long for me to feel better.  The only downside was that a few hours later I was feeling a little sick again! I wasn't as bad as before luckily, but I decided to look up a other things that would help fight off a cold, and found that beef, turmeric, and greens can help fight a cold as well.

Before I went to the store I took a warm shower, showers when you have a cold or are sick in any way feels amazing.

I was going to make some grass fed beef anyways for dinner so that worked perfect.  I went to Whole Foods picked up the grass fed beef and while I was walking I noticed the tea section and went to look for a second, and found this tea called Rishi which this particular tea has turmeric in it so that solved my problem there.  I already had spinach at home so I made some ground beef tacos with soft corn tortillas, and after I ate that I made myself a plate of spinach and a cup or 2 of the tea.
Not surprisingly after I started to feel better again!

Closing thoughts
I hope this post helped you guys prevent a cold fast if you are dealing with a cold.  The seasons are changing and the weather is starting to warm up and I know many of us have a higher chance of getting sick around spring time and fall time, so I thought this would be a perfect time to write this because many people are going to get sick around this time, so I thought I'd share my experience and a few ways to help you guys out.  I am very into healing with the foods we eat and believe the foods play the biggest role in determining if we get sick or not.  If this helped you or you have other foods or routines that help you fight colds please share them in the comment section below!

Cheers,

Brian

How to Surround Yourself With Constant Motivation.

Motivation is something that kind of comes and goes.  You don't need motivation to be successful in whatever area you are going into, but it does help.  Motivation makes the journey more fun and enjoyable, and also helps you see that you shouldn't give up.  We see people who have already done what we are willing to do and it gives us a sort of hope.  If someone can come from a lower place than you, why can't you become great as well?

Before I go more in depth you shouldn't rely on motivation to be able to achieve your goals, I certainly don't, and everyday I want to give up but I don't, because I would regret it if I did.  But what are the things that would make me regret giving up?

If I were to die today would I be happy with the results I put out there?  This is a question we should always be asking ourselves.  If we wouldn't be happy with what we did by the end of our lives, we know we would need to change that right now right?

So how do we go about changing this.  We need some sort of motivation but like I said we can't rely on motivation to achieve our goals because you won't always be motivated, sometimes you just have to push through even though right now you may not want to.  However I love using motivation as a tool to boost my productivity.

What motivates me?
I am a big believer in surrounding yourself with things or people that will help you achieve your goals. I however am working on the people thing right now as that is hard for me to do, but I see my social skills are getting better each and everyday.

Surrounding myself with things I want is working very well for me.  Take a moment and think about this,  you are living in a run down town, your house is filled with junk or is slowly being run down as well, so are your neighbors.  Everywhere you look you see regular cars, or even rusty ones.  Crimes are very common and your neighbors are often robbed. everything around you is falling apart in a sense. Would you have any motivation to get out of that or would you be used to it?  Believe it or not most people would get used to it!

Now lets look at another story.  Everyday you are seeing millionaires, fancy houses with pools and hot tubs, exotic cars, Bentley's, Ferrari's, Maserati's ect. Everywhere you look there is wealth.

For me this is the type of stuff that motivates me and I am fortunate enough to live near a town called Birmingham, MI where you are bound to see 5-10 brand new range rovers in a couple minutes.  Mercedes G Classes are everywhere and so are many exotics.  I also have exotic car dealerships close by where I can go look at Lamborghini's, Aston's, Rolls Royce's ect.

For me these cars and also the house's I see are pure motivation. I know I will own many of these cars one day, and that in turn motivates me to put in the work to achieve those goals, and makes the work more enjoyable at times when I feel like relaxing or resting or taking a day off.

How I am motivated daily is by either going to Birmingham or the dealerships, or by finding people online who are where I want to be, or even just by finding pictures of cars, or houses in area's that look cool to me.  And for fitness I love to picture myself with the ripped body I am working towards!  You don't have to live near Beverly Hills to surround yourself with your motivations.  You can do like I do sometimes and go online and find pictures or video's, if it helps create a vision board or at least a list of things you want to achieve.  This list should be long at least 20 items that way you have constant goals you are working towards, they can be material possessions, fitness, how you will help people, your mindset or whatever you want.

At least create this list and be specific, you won't always be motivated but having goals in mind will help you push through the boring shit and days you want to relax, because you will see that your vision is more important than resting everyday and never going after what you want in life.  The time is yours!  Go out and live it the way you were destined to!

Are You Currently Taking the Blue Pill and Living in the Matrix? Are You Ready for Change in Your Life?

Do you follow whatever you hear on the news as if its the truth?  Do you see yourself doing the same boring things everyday and question it?  Maybe everyone else tells you how to think, your parents, family, friends, news, teachers, or certain groups.  You follow blindly without ever thinking why you are following what everyone else says.  This is how we are conditioned from day one today.  And most of us will follow what the news says even if it isn't true, or maybe you will go to school and get your degree to find out you will be underemployed, and when you do get that job you went to school for you will HATE it.  It will become repetitive, you will go to work come home, maybe pick up some fast food on the way home and sit on the couch for 3-5 hours and watch some stupid tv show.  Then you will go to bed and repeat this process for 30-40 more years.  At the end of your life you will wonder where all your time went, but during your life for all those years you coped with life blindly following everything you were told you will think you were living.  See for most of us we only take the red pill on our death bed, when its too late!  My goal for this blog post is for you to take it today!

I'm not going to go into things that "blue pill" people would call conspiracy theories, if you want to look into that kind stuff feel free to search the internet.  I would like to talk about taking the red pill in terms of becoming your greatest version, and not the conspiracy theories, even though they would be fun to talk about (maybe on another blog).

You don't want to take the red pill!
What happens when you decide to take the red pill? You will find that everything you thought was truth was a lie.  This will be painful, your ego will get in the way because you will see you lived your life with blinders on instead of seeing the real world much longer ago!  Don't let your ego control you, move past it. See the world for what it really is.  See how we are trained since day one to think the fast food we are told to eat is normal.  See how you ate this food, but that is behind you now, you have taken the red pill!  And this is probably the part that sucks the least.
You will go around and see life as it is.  You will see how you were told to be just like everyone else. You were told to get that job you hate because its "safe and secure", but did anyone ever tell you that you could lose your job any second?  NO.  This wouldn't make the school and college system work.  What makes it work its by spending 20-25 years of your life in school then getting a job you hate so that you never have to think for yourself and do the hard thing.  And yes achieving your goals and visions is viewed as the hard thing to do.  Could you imagine if instead of school for 20-25 years you were able to work on yourself?  Build yourself up for 7 hours everyday (7 hours is the average school day in America).  How different would your life be if you built yourself up instead of building up someone else's version of you up?

So you don't want to take the red pill because it will cause you to think for yourself instead of blindly following every lie you are told.  You will see your whole life was a lie up until this point.

Closing thoughts.
Have you chosen to take the red pill?  I hope you have.  It is a big step in life, and I hope you have chosen to take the red pill.  Don't believe everything you are told (especially not this blog post, just kidding) do your research on everything you hear from the media or everything you have been told in life from anyone around you, and what has been told in schools!

I would love to hear your thoughts on this.  Were you taking the blue pill before you read this, or have you been taking the red pill for a while now?  What more could I have talked about on this post, or what would you add?

99 Percent.

So the other day on the way to work I saw the dumbest sticker on a car.  I have seen this sticker before but the other day it struck me more than it usually does.  This sticker is one that says "Look I'm not going anywhere in life and I'm your average Joe."  It is something you should be ashamed to show on your car and not proud of whatsoever.

So there was a old, gold, shitty Toyota Corolla driving by me in a rush to get to the same red light as me with a sticker saying "We are the 99 %"  Now I don't know the point of this sticker, but I know I don't want to be part of the 99%, do you?  I hope your answer to that was a big fat NO!

In this day and age we are programmed to be "normal" go get a piece of paper to show how smart you are, follow the herd like everyone else and you will have a safe secure job, or life.  More and more people are waking up to see this type of thinking isn't true.  Most kids graduate college in severe debt and are employed at the same job they could've gotten out of high school!  Even if they got the job they wanted it isn't secure and they could be fired at any time, even if they are a great employee, the economy could get bad and they could be fired.  99% of people will stay in their comfort zone because they think its safe, when in reality its about just as safe as going and taking a risk.  The only difference is that it is harder and takes a shit ton more work initially, and most people won't see you vision like you do, so its hard and most of us take the easy path.

But what we don't know is the easy path isn't that easy.  Most people have parents telling them what job they should get, "go be a lawyer jonny" they would say.  I am lucky enough not to have my parents trying to force me to do a job they wanted me to do, but instead teaching me to think of what I want to do for my life. I do know there are a lot of kids out there that are told they have to do such and such job like becoming a doctor or lawyer, and theres nothing wrong with these jobs as long as you will enjoy doing them, but if you are "forced"' by parents or friends its pressure, and will seem easy to do in the short run. In reality its the hardest fucking thing you can do!  If you don't enjoy it you will spend 8-12 year in a boring college classroom, be 10's-100,000 of thousand of dollars in debt, graduate and have a small chance of being a great doctor or lawyer.  This is what most people (The 99%) will do and will regret it for the rest of their life, instead of taking some action today towards the life they want because today that action looks hard.  Don't be one of those people that lets their life slip away and take no action to where you are going just because its "easy".  You are better than that!

Next is fitness and health, and yes I have some flaws here, I am still eating too much, but have been successfully cutting down how much I eat most days of the week now.  It does take discipline and I can see right now in my life its hard to stop binge eating but I am getting away from it now!  For me it was easy to eat and eat and eat, I wouldn't feel full with the food around me.  Although it wasn't junk food I would still eat more than I should.  I'm not in anyway fat but I did notice some belly fat from eating so much throughout my days, although I can still see my abs.  Maybe you are the same way?  Maybe you are eating fast food and want to stop?  It's the hard thing to do but what I like to say to myself and have been over the last few weeks whenever I think I am going to eat more than I should is ask myself "is this worth it and am I full right now?"
See its so easy for me to shove food in my mouth but in the long run its not easy because it'll affect my body fat.  This can be the same with fast food or junk food.  For fast food you can think its easy and convenient right?  In reality it can take longer than doing meal prep for a week  or a few days of eating leftover from dinner.  Going out to eat at lunch may seem easier because you don't have to cook your lunch, but you are spending hours going out to eat and waiting in line for food every week when those same hours could've been used to prepare meals for the whole week all at once, and those meals could be way better for you than whats in the fast food.
Easy things for fitness and health don't just apply to food, but also going into the gym or doing a workout.  What is easier going to the gym for an hour or staying home and laying in bed or on the couch watching TV?  In the short run watching TV is easier, you don't have to go push yourself to the limit and go out in the cold and drive to the gym, you can stay home and relax and watch your favorite show.  In the long run as you can guess its the hardest thing you can do.  Your not taking care of your body, which his the most precious thing you have on this earth.  You could spend that same hour watching TV but instead go to the gym, look better, feel better, and grow as a person, make that a habit and live a life you love!

Closing thoughts.
I made this as a sort of motivational blog to help anyone who needs to start on their journey, or for anyone who is stuck like I am with my binge eating, as a motivator to stop their bad habits, which we all have so don't feel ashamed for it.  I want you guys to be part of the 1% or even the 1% of the 1%!  Don't take the "easy" way out many times in the end its the hard way anyways and just hurt you more than helped you.  Anyways guys if this gave you some sort of motivation please comment below and share this with someone you think will benefit from reading this.

Thanks for reading.
-Brian

My Top 10 Lessons from Tools of Titans by Tim Ferris.

 Meditation/mindfulness.
Over 80% of the people interviewed in the book have some sort of daily meditation or mindfulness practice or anything that gets you into the moment.  I believe this is key for everyone because for me I find it almost impossible to be happy or present when I am not doing what I love to do.  I feel the happiest when I am working out and doing 20 minutes of meditation daily.  For me these 2 things are the biggest things that improve happiness for me, and some days even making YouTube videos.  I don't know why this makes me feel happy and present because being an introvert I would think it would make me anxious, but for some reason it doesn't?  maybe it is because I am sharing parts of my life I think will help others or I think that is interesting, I have no clue what the reason is but whatever it is it works for positivity and presence.  What is the thing that you can do daily as meditation or mindfulness?
You have the potential.
 "Life can be much broader, once you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you that you call 'life' was made up by people that were no smarter than you.  And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use.  Once you learn that you'll never be the same again."  this is from Marc Andreessen he co-founded Netscape, which sold to AOL for $4.2 billion!  I can say this is true for me and I know that if it is true for me it is true for many others,  I am in no way the best on camera or at writing, but I didn't let that stop me from making videos or writing blogs!  Before I started writing and making videos I thought for me that would be impossible, but once I started I found what Marc said is true.  Life is much broader, I find myself in a place where I can help others that share the same struggles as me, instead of staying confined in my anxieties of putting myself out there.  I found action and creativity create influence in others.  How can you share your flaws or share your strengths to help improve the world?  What will you create in life?
Have a clear vision.
Arnold Schwarzenegger said "I am a big believer that if you have a very clear vision of where you want to go, then the rest is much easier"  I believe this is very important for life.  Whenever I don't have a clear vision of where I want to be or go, I notice I kind of dabble around and slack off.  Without the vision is is easy to slack off.  But with the vision I know I am doing things for myself and others.  Lets take the gym for example, it is easy to dabble around maybe do a couple half assed workouts so your muscles don't hurt too much.  I used to do this all the time! I now have a clear vision of the body I want and the impact I want to make in the world to help others achieve the body they want.  Without the hard work, effort, and vision I will not be able to do any of that and push myself to go where I need to not just in the gym but also in any area of life!
It's "fuck yeah" or "no".  This is something I struggle with.  Saying yes to things I want to do and no to things I don't want to do feels good, but also part of it can feel bad.  This for me is because I am still reprogramming my brain to know my standards for myself are more important than pleasing others.  Also if I'm not all in on something others will feel it or notice it from me.  Start saying no to easy things to say no to, and yes to things you want to say yes to.  It is way easier to start small then start with something big in your life!
  "Life is always happening for us, not to us." - Tony Robbins.  I believe this is critical to anyones life.  We control what happens in our lives, or most of what happens, and if its something beyond our control, we can look at the good or the bad side of it.  Hard gainer like me?  Hmmmm maybe you could find a way to help other hard gainers.  Lost your job?  Maybe you'll find a better one or the job of your dreams!  We should never play victim in life, but instead realize the good and the bad and create a life out of both that is good, and not let things that happened to us control our life, but instead grab life by the balls and control what happens and who you become!
What do you hate doing?
"What is the ultimate qualification for success? For me it's not how much time you spend doing what you love.  Its how little time you spend doing what you hate." -Casey Neistat
For me this is huge, and I'm sure it is for you to!  Many of us go to work 8 hours a day which we hate, then come home and numb ourselves with TV.  Do you really enjoy the time you spend watching TV everyday?  This is an important question to ask.  And even more important is "what is the way I can have the best time today?"  I can say for myself that TV can be fun time to time, but even when I watch it, it doesn't seem like I'm watching TV because its fun, I'm watching it because I'm avoiding something that I need to get done, or that seems hard.  Now I'm not saying that if you watch TV after a long day its bad, but just make sure during the day before you watch it do something you think is fun or something good that you will remember 10 years from now!
Write every morning for 5 minutes to  change your day.  In the book Tim says he writes for 5 minutes in his journal every morning to get out of his head.  I did the same type of thing with my 7 day blogging challenge.  I was way too focussed on how amazing the content had to be instead of focussing on how a small nugget from the blog could help someone or be a cool idea to share even if the rest of the post sucks!  Clearing my mind from writing is even helping me today.  I still have trouble writing at times but it seems the more I write (even if its shitty writing) the more that comes to my head to share.  For me its about getting out of my head and not being afraid to share what I want to share, even if someone else thinks its stupid or not "good enough" its trained me to see that it is good enough.
What you track determines your lens - choose carefully. This section is by Seth Godin, he says that "we find ourselves caught in the cycle of keeping track of the wrong things. Playing victim can be so easy in many circumstances, or even thinking of everything as bad or good.  If you guys follow the blog you know I am a big believe in gratitude.  Gratitude has changed my outlook on many things including my outlook on my job.  Like most people we hate our jobs, they are usually boring and repetitive.  Most of us will only focus on that part but not the good.  Whats the good about having a job even if you don't like it?  You are more likely to improve your life and work towards getting or creating a job you love doing, you can also be grateful you have a job, because without it you wouldn't have a roof over your head or food on the table.  Maybe you can even make some random strangers day!  When I start viewing my job as boring or stupid I like to say to myself "This job may be stupid and boring but at least you have a job and don't have to worry about the next time you will eat."  There is always a way to look at the glass half full!
 Pick a goal and write it down 15 times a day.  Brainwashing yourself for success.  I suck at this but will write my goal 15 times right now in my phone to introduce myself to a new habit,  Before your guys diss me for using my phone to write this down, I also already use my phone for my eating log and workout log, as well as my list of things to do to move closer to my greatest version.  On my workouts I am in the gym at least 3 times a week and have progressed on each workout everyday I am in the gym, and only keep track of the weight and reps of each workout with my phone like I said.
You know yourself, if writing it on paper works better do that, if writing it in your phones works better do it.  So anyways Scott Adams says to pick any goal and write it down 15 times a day.  He says "it seems the universe just starts to spit up opportunities."  I believe this is true even though this is my first time trying it.  I used to work in Birmingham, MI where common cars or Mercedes, BMW's, Range Rovers and so on.  Being around these cars and seeing them everyday told my subconscious mind that money is everywhere.  This did help me in my financial situation.  If your goal is to be the best basketball player write down "I am the best basketball player to ever live!" and I'm sure just like my story that I just shared as well as what Scott said, it will start to manifest in your life and will look like the universe is working for you!  My particular goal was "I make money weekly drop shipping" as this is something I am working on and trying to focus on to become financially free.
 Teach yourself to complain less. "When you complain nobody wants to help you" - Stephen Hawking. This tip from the book goes back to "what you track determines your lens.  I am a complainer myself, we all are.  It is easier to complain about something than to cherish what is right.  Seems weird doesn't it?  Think about it are you more likely to complain about service somewhere or write a good review if the service was good?  Chances are you would want to complain.  I don't blame you because its how we are conditioned.  This is one thing I am working on noticing when I do it, so I can stop doing it, or do it less.  What I have been doing is noticing when I complain and then switch it to "what was good about that situation?"

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