Thursday, September 8, 2016

How to Deal With Loss of a Loved One. (My Life Story).

This is my first blog post about an extremely big subject in my life, but I knew sharing my story with it will help all of you.  We all lose someone very close to us more than once in life.  In this particular blog post I am going to share a story and throw in some ways I dealt with it.  So here it goes.
It starts when I was 6 years old.  My family and I had just lost my mom to cancer, and being a small child especially, I was devastated and sad.  I can remember I didn't sleep for 3 days after it, but my true anxiety from it didn't start till a few years later, when I was old enough to realize more of  what life is. 
Now this part I did mention before, I would have trouble going to school or even not being with my dad all the time in fear something was going to happen to him.  I couldn't even handle him walking the dog without me there in fear something bad was going to happen!  I was even prescribed anti-depressants because of how scared I was of losing my dad at times. 
I can still remember how everything felt from losing my mom to dealing with that anxiety off loss and being scared of losing my dad as well, and I'm writing this almost 13 years later.  These feeling never fully go away after you lose someone very close to you.  If you have lost someone close to you, you know exactly what I mean by that.  Chances are you clicked on this post to read it for this part, so  here it is.  You heard a brief story of my history with my experience, so now time to give you guys some ways to deal with loss.
For me, I had people all around me showing care, so find someone to talk to, whether its family, friends, or even a counselor if you need to.  Talking to others can be really beneficial to get over it, as they can understand what you are going through and help you through it.  And all these people will always be there for you when you need them.
Also you can remember the good things this person has done and how much they did in life.  What do I mean by this?  Well look at how much they enjoyed their life, how much they did the things they loved to do.  This little trick helps you see how much more their life meant and the purpose it has, and also helps you see that they lived an amazing life, true to themselves.  Seeing the best part of a lost loved on can open up calibration for their life instead of mourning.  Now nowhere am I saying mourning a lost loved one is bad, what I'm trying to get across is to also celebrate their victories, this has helped me and can help you as well.
Anyways guys I hope this short post helped you in some way if you lost someone close to you recently.  Loss can be very difficult, but it happens to everyone, so I sincerely hope you got some value out of this post.

See you guys on the next one,

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